Inspirational quotes, you know the ones. They pop up on your face book feed with a beautiful picture of a sunset, someone climbing a mountain, or jumping in the air with pure joy.
They are a mixed blessing. Some can really resonate, a quote from an author, a word of scripture from a holy book.
Some can irritate. Some are just plain wrong, I’m pretty sure that Winnie the Pooh didn’t make the “I have a dream” speech, and the things that Oscar Wilde reportedly said, well just don’t get me started.
Hand in hand with this come the helpful little phrases people choose to share with parents of children with additional needs.
I have compiled, for your reading pleasure a short summary of some of the most common.
You probably have some favourites of your own. If any come to mind that help you/make you want to punch somebody please share with the community below the line!
Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff.
We brush up against mortality, severe illness, pain and struggle on a regular basis, plus the big questions of faith, meaning, love and loss.
It’s not all small stuff.
Whether you have enough likes on your Facebook Page, if you have sent a birthday card a bit late, if your house is a bit untidy this my friend is the small stuff.
You have my permission not to sweat it.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
This has always been one of my favourites.
Self-care suggests the first reading is preferable. On the days where the second is more accurate be kind to yourself.
Which brings us neatly to
Be kind for everyone is fighting a hard battle.
You my fellow parent, if you care for a child with additional needs you are fighting a hard battle.
The person who has parked in a disabled space with no badge, I have less sympathy for.
The Local Authority responsible for providing care and support for you, your family and your child? Well they are paid, and should be working on your behalf.
What cannot be cured must be endured
Must it? Well in reality yes, and emotional resilience, the ability to bounce back and keep on keeping on is useful tool in the special parents armour.
I would argue however that you need to find people who get you, family friends, parents in the same position, so you can endure it with a better grace together.
It may be that you can (whisper it quietly) even enjoy it!
I will leave you with my current personal favourite, which happens to be biblical but I think describes us, our children and our struggles well no matter what beliefs we do or do not have.
But we have this treasure in jars of clay
We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair, persecuted, but not forsaken, struck down, but not destroyed.
As I frequently find myself perplexed, despairing and feeling forsaken this curiously helps me.
We are all the same no matter what our abilities or disabilities and that,to me is rather wonderful..
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