The first year of your child's life is always a learning game.

Getting to know him or her, their sleeping schedules, feeding times, etc.

Then comes the gap between age one and two - this year is playing catch up with sleep, as well as discovering the unique personality your little one is sure to display. 

They are so busy learning the world around them, as well as their own bodies and abilities.

It is a great time getting to know who your child is, without so much dependency on mom or dad.

But then comes the terrible twos!

Everyone knows this year as such for a very good reason.

No matter the form of mobility your child uses to get around, they are now learning their world hands on and through their own eyes.

They are learning they can be independent from their parents in some things and not so much in others.

Vocabulary spikes for most kids, including the infamous word “No!”

Testing the limits, touching something just one more time even after mommy has instructed them not to.

The list could go on forever, and that is just with one of my sons!

As much as we may dread the traits of the 'Twos', it is essential to the child and their learning.

Time is strained when your child is yelling, throwing a tantrum on the floor and we fail to think about it in the moment. Why is my child doing this?

Most passersby would simply attribute it to being “spoiled”.

Far from the case, you just have to think about the hardship he or she may be going through being so small, with a limited vocabulary, and having been told “no” for the first time in their life.

When they were babies, all they had to do was cry and someone would come along with something yummy to eat, arms to hold, or a clean diaper to wear.

Learning that they are now in control of their own emotions and body can be an overwhelming thing for them. Especially when they drop something repeatedly and get a certain reaction from mom or dad.

This would be cause and effect. Not knowing the reaction or instructions you’re giving them to stop throwing something is bad, all they see is; if I throw this toy on the floor, mommy or daddy does this silly look with their face and their voice changes.

Imagine being small and learning this new ability to make mommy or daddy do something specific with a specific action. Thrilling!

All the while I type this, my son Oliver (2) is pouring his milk over his hands in our bed.

He doesn't understand quite yet that this just makes a mess and we don't favor that mess in the bed we sleep in.

My immediate reaction is to instruct him to stop as if he understood why I am doing so. But if I just take a couple seconds to think and understand that he is learning rather than intentionally making a mess, it makes a huge difference in the kind of response I give him.

Having the right kind of response to things can make a world of a difference and two's don't have to be so terrible.

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