She is not a 'spoilt brat' she is a child with serious food aversion!
Have you ever happened to be on any food groups on social media or watched food programmes on television?
I have to say I usually avoid them as someone who generally has little time to watch TV and who struggles to cook.
However I was chatting to a friend today who had been watching TV and heard a famous chef on prime time TV talking about 'fussy eaters' and saying that it was all down to the parents 'giving in.'
Just minutes later a fellow blogger posted how she was outraged having read on a huge Facebook group relating to food that a professional was advocating 'starving' fussy children until they gave in and ate!
I should be used to this by now but it still hurts.
People feel so open about judging my parenting and my cooking and even my mental health because I happen to have a child who has serious food aversions and struggles to eat.
It is a daily battle for me to remind myself I am not to blame!
Every parent wants to feed their child. It is fundamental to their welfare and brings us so much satisfaction to know they are happy and nourished.
My daughter was a wonderful breast feeder and despite having low birth weight she was settled, happy and slowly growing on breast milk. Then I started weaning and suddenly everything changed!
From the word go she refused solid food and eight years later we are still struggling.
We have seen paediatricians, dieticians, health visitors, mental health nurses and physiologists and we are still struggling.
If food touches she has a huge meltdown and stops talking and interacting. It traumatises her beyond belief.
Every single day is a struggle. People say it is my fault. Like that helps. People say she is controlling us. Like that will make her eat!
The worst ones are those who say she is a 'spoilt brat' when in fact she is a child with extreme anxiety and food aversion! It is heartbreaking.
We have a few foods she will eat and those are saving us from the added trauma of a feeding tube (a trauma that could result in no food or drink ever going in her mouth again).
She has just two things she will drink. Her weight is a serious worry as is her health as she walks a fine balance between being 'well' and 'we may need to intervene'.
We have days she will eat and days she won't.
If I am to blame then why does her twin brother have no issue with food and in fact will eat anything out in front of him?
There is no history of eating disorders in my family.
My children are not fed on junk.
Food aversion and eating disorders are REAL. TV personalities should know better. Professionals should know better.
Ignorance is rife about this matter and it is destroying children and families everywhere.
Please stop judging!
My child is NOT a spoilt brat! She is caring, loving, gentle, beautiful and kind.
Unless you live with this please keep your ignorance to yourself. Thank you.
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