I have seen a rise in stories on the news regarding kids and teens with special needs being asked out by the “popular kid” or things of that nature.
To be honest, it is better than seeing the usual negative jumble that goes on daily, but these stories have all started many blogs about people and how they feel about it all.
I do recall reading the title of a blog and about how they did not want their child to be the purpose of some feel good, raise to fame ordeal.
It stated how they wanted their child to be treated like any other kid would be.
While I can agree on some extent to this, I do not agree to all of it. I will tell you why...
Although I want nothing more than Oliver to be treated with the same respect and courtesy as one would to any other child, he is inevitably different than most kids.
There is no denying that although I would love for him to go out and about playing with kids as kids do, I still need those same children running about to take precaution when he moves about.
I still need them to understand that he does have different ways of getting around and maybe going out and climbing trees is not something he can do on his own.
Like asking your daughter who may have a diagnosis to the prom.
I always catch myself questioning whether the countless people we come across who so adoringly coo over how cute Oliver is, would still be doing the same if he wasn't in braces or a wheelchair.
But I have realized that I do not want to always have to question things day in and day out.
I would love to trust that one day, whether it made it viral or not, that a girl or even my own boy will ask another out to prom and it not be questioned.
I want Oliver to experience love, happiness, and all the normal heartaches we all went through because we learn from that.
I do however want people to understand that he is different in his own unique way and that is what makes him so special to us all!
We sometimes associate the word special with being bad and different, because we always see it linked to “special needs”.
But to me, it is one of that many attributes Oliver carries. He loves to hold my hand whenever we are laying down together, and that is special to me.
He can get from point A to point B in his wheelchair just as fast as his older brother Aaden can running, and that is special to me.
Oliver has grown up with spina bifida not knowing that it isn't “not normal” and he learns and lives because he does not know any different.
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