All parents everywhere are busier than ever before – they have to combine raising children with working, often full time.
They have clubs and tea dates to arrange and a myriad of other things to contend with during term time.
There is barely time for their feet to touch the floor, let alone get to bed before 11pm most nights.
It can mean seemingly endless appointments, preparing and evidencing paperwork for school placement, battling for equipment, sleep deprivation and a whole new ‘normal’ to contend with.
Often the cost of coming to terms with your new normal takes time and impacts on friendships, relationships and home-life.
A whole life adjustment has to take place and can create problems whilst this adjustment happens.
For some it is like a grieving process, for others they experience a depression or anxiety
Some parents don’t ever manage to accept their child is disabled and relationships do break down.
Some parents blame themselves and find it very difficult to lift themselves out of the feelings they are experiencing.
Some cope relatively well and muddle through.
The most important thing to remember is that you are still the same family today as you were yesterday!
The poem by Emily Perl Kingsly ‘Welcome to Holland’ describes receiving the diagnosis of a child with a disability being akin to the expectation of travelling to Italy but landing in Holland.
The thought process and adaptation of landing in Holland can be a shock initially but actually it’s not such a bad place after all, just different and requires a huge learning curve.
Feeling alone is tough especially at a time when support is crucial.
Remember to seek out support, join support groups whether face to face or online.
It is often said that people feel abandoned when their child is diagnosed or recognised as having a disability and this is often true – often the professionals have little knowledge of what is ‘out there’ to provide support and other parents become a rich source of information.
Use them and their knowledge and give yourself a helping hand!
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