You’ve got to know your audience, play the crowd, and make connections.

This is our son.

He does it all too well.

Especially after he’s been away from his therapists due to bad seizure weeks. 

He’ll get back to work after some time off and he just won’t be feeling demands of his therapy sessions.

He bats his eyelashes, throws a crooked smile and they’re enchanted.

He knows his strengths and uses them well.
 

All of this happens without a word. 

Our son cannot speak or walk. 

He cannot communicate as normal fully functioning humans can, but oh how he does let us know how he feels.

There are people in this world who are good readers of emotion and body language. 

Then there are those who are not. 

For those who are not, I’m sorry. 

There is a population of amazing children in this world that will never make any sense to you. 

I cannot help you. 

I do not believe this to be a teachable skill.

If I were to give any advice on how to understand my child, I would tell you to slow down.  In fact, Stop.
 

Check your agenda at the door. 

Whatever thoughts you were having when you walked in the room, put them aside. 

Pay attention to him, what is he doing now? 

How can you interact with him where he is and participate with him?

Sometimes the best way to be inclusive of our children is not to help them do what you are doing, but to try to figure out what they are already doing or what they might like help doing. 

It’s just that easy, right? 

Probably not. 

However, we have to try.

Sometimes we have to remind ourselves to slow down.
 

My son helps. 

He stares me down from across the room while I pass by two or three times with a look that is clearly telling me, “Hey dad, over here. Come spend some time with me”. 

While I know that the things I’m doing are important, part of me still breaks when I forget to slow down and just be present with him.

When you are able to read our children it does not take you long to get to know them. 

You will include them and treat them well. 

They will quickly find their way into your heart.

 

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