The holiday season has begun and in the words of a famous song, it’s the most wonderful time of the year. 

Family and friends will expect you to continue the tradition of attending every party and gathering.  

Don’t get me wrong I love being around all of them.  

I enjoy all the cooking, baking and laughter that occurs at every home.  

What I’m not looking forward to is the repetition of the same question “How’s Matthew?”, which is always followed by a concerned sad look. 

Because when I respond with how great he is doing most likely the person asking the question won’t understand.  

The way they see it, he is still not walking or talking and cannot sit unassisted for great lengths.  

More than likely people we don’t see often won’t understand that when we reflect back on our past year we will be proud of Matthew’s accomplishments.

To us walking and talking is still something we know down the road Matthew will do but we are more than happy that he can now raise his hands above his head.  

There were many high-fives exchanged the day he figured out how to move food from one side of his mouth to the other with his tongue.  

Maybe, I’m partially to blame because I most likely won’t share these milestones with people that are acquaintances.  

I think it’s because of the looks they give Matthew feeling sorry for him.  

Little do they know using his tongue opened up a whole new category of foods so his is pumped about that and raising his hands means we get to interact with new songs and games. 

Then there is the problems we face with older relatives that are starting to show the signs of senility.  

They are the matriarchs of our families and have lived through some of the greatest moments in history but they don’t quite understand that Matthew isn’t a baby.  

Yes, I have to carry him around and if we are visiting someone he is most likely situated the floor with his toys.  

But he is almost three years old and reaching 30lbs.  

I have trouble carrying him around all day so I’m terrified that you holding him will either harm Matthew or yourself.  

So we will play the fun holiday game of don’t let Aunt (fill in the blank) hold Matty.  

Though they come from the greatest generation, unfortunately they are the least likely to understand special needs children because in their day it wasn’t something anyone discussed. 

If you are one of our family members reading this blog, no worries we will still be at all the holiday gatherings. 

Also, it’s really okay to okay to ask me how Matthew is doing.  

Just maybe this time give a high five instead of a frowny-face when I answer. 

Keep me updated

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