Be bold.

Go on give it try.

Look beyond the today that you're are bogged down and lost in. 

Dream a little.

Wish a little. 

Hope a lot. 

Do it for yourself, do it for your family, and most importantly, do it for your children. 

If you have more than one, and they are not a special needs child or children, you do it all the time for them, so don’t leave out the amazing miracle of a child that is your special needs child.

Have a vision. 

Not so much a premonition and certainly don’t get so carried away as to develop some sort of mission statement. 

I understand the undertones of such a word and the potential for you to have some ill-fated experience in a work related meeting trying to develop a vision that will go no further than the conference room the meeting took place in. 

I’m not talking about one of those.

What I am talking about is seeing beyond the problems that have been set in front of you and live into something better. 

Particularly as it relates to you being a special needs parent, just being a parent really. 

I know I’m no alone when I tell you that there is nothing special about me because I am a special needs parent. 

I am a dad.

I love my children. 

I would do anything for my children. 

The end. 

It doesn’t matter that my son may never walk or talk or jump or swim or any number of things in this life that we take for granted.

It is the only life I know and would not trade it for another and besides he will do some or all of that.  

As whatever this life will be presents itself. 

Take the time to figure out where you are going and how you’re going to get there. 

What is your purpose beyond just making it?

I don’t know about you but sometimes the only way I make it through one day is knowing that there is another one coming. 

It is awfully easy to get stuck in this cycle. 

For the sake of our sanity and our children, we must see something else.

The good news?

It doesn’t have to be complicated. 

Aim for something reasonable. 

If you don’t set a goal you can meet, it’s really not much fun.  

There is nothing finer in this life than meeting your own expectations.

So, go to the park. 

Put forth some energy and go do something you did before you had your special needs child and take them with you. 

I didn’t say this was going to be easy or not wear you out. 

My wife and I love to hike.

We used to take off to the mountains every weekend and find a new trail. 

After our son was born we didn’t. 

One weekend we decided that was going to change. 

We loaded up the kids and headed out.

There is a great state park in North Carolina not too far from where our family has a house and has some nice graveled trails with easier access to lots of waterfalls.

I put my son in our all terrain B.O.B and did some serious pushing. 

We had a great time and he loved it!

Get going.

Get out. 

Stop worrying about what anyone thinks of you and how your family does things. 

Every now and again stop thinking about how hard it’s going to be and instead think about how much fun it’s going to be. 

And just because your child may not be able to tell you that they want to go do something, doesn’t mean to don’t want to go do something.

So go and do something. 

Remember what it was like when you were a kid. 

What it’s like for your other kids. 

They want to go and play and see the things you’ve always talked about doing.

Find a way. 

Have vision of what putting aside the daily grind might look like for a day and enjoy!

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